We Didn’t Serve for the Thank-Yous

Nick Nolan
5 min readNov 9, 2024
Author & family at bootcamp graduation

When someone says, “Thank you for your service,” it’s usually coming from a place of gratitude.

There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s the standard response. People aren’t sure what else to say.

I’m not sure how to respond.

Uhh…you’re welcome? Thanks for the thank you? Thanks for paying your taxes.

My go-to response is smiling and saying, “Of course!” Or “Thanks for your support.” But it still makes me a bit uncomfortable.

During my four years of service, I didn’t save anyone’s life. I didn’t help achieve world peace or prevent any IEDs from blowing up.

I shared a few packs of stale MRE Skittles with Filipino kids — that always made their day.

For many veterans, the thank yous feel like a thoughtless response. Are y’all just saying that because it’s the politically correct standard? It feels like when a customer service rep says, “Sorry for the inconvenience.” Or when someone says, “Bless you” after I sneeze.

It’s supposed to make me feel better.

It doesn’t.

I didn’t join the military to hear a few thank yous on Veterans Day.

I didn’t join to be a war hero or collect personal accolades.

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Nick Nolan
Nick Nolan

Written by Nick Nolan

Freelance marketing consultant | Writing about Copywriting, SEO, and Social Media

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